Hi, everyone!
Alice, your comment about your grandmother reminds me of mine,
who loved talking with my family.
But now, I also regret my rude behavior against her.
She used to chat about nothing special for me, and I usually paid no attention to her.
Since everyone has own great history, especially for women, we should have exchanged
our experiences.
Plum, I was so moved with your frank talk, not complaint.
When I started my married life, I didn't doubt my life as one woman.
But time went by, now I have many unsolved questions in my mind.
Last year, I bravely went to a counseling for women for the first time.
My counselor was polite, aged woman, who had enough capacity for empathy.
For about 6 months, I continued it, and satisfied so much.
Talking my feelings to disinterested others was very comfortable and faithful.
Through such process, I realized many truths for me, and decided good choices.
I also hope an exchanging place for women in the future.
It is late, and good night, friends.
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Hi, everybody!
Today I’d like to talk about a story about one couple of my neighbors. There used to be liquor shop in front of my house. It was run by very honest, kind, and diligent couple. They sold a variety of sake, wine, miso and soy sauce. The shop was doing very well. They had a lot of customers in neighborhood. I also bought a lot of daily things there. It was very convenient for me to get high- quality goods there. However they closed their sake-shop around one decade ago in spite of good management and much favor of neighbors. Why? Because there was a big problem, which made them unable to continue the business succeeded from his parents. The husband, who was a liquor shop owner, surprisingly an alcoholic person. The wife made a great effort to abstain him from drinking. It was very easy for him to get any liquor. It was impossible to take him away from alcohol under such a circumstance surrounded with all kinds of sake, whisky, wine etc. Too much drink damaged his health so often and made the relations of families worse. The wife, my close friend, of course, thought about divorce many times. But at last they gave up their job and became a member of a meeting of total abstinence from drinking. They met a variety of people, from an elite salaried man, a university professor to a young part-timer. The meeting is held very regularly. They talked and talked a lot about their experienced and encouraged to face the same problems and swear off drinking there. The wife told me that the meeting is very effective and she said “ I should have decide on the first day of the honeymoon when my husband was in detention by police, because of allegedly quarrel in the hotel triggered from heavy drinking. After the honeymoon I asked my parents to leave him and live alone by myself but my parents never allowed me to do so and persuaded me. Then I started the life with him again. Now I think this is the my life to live together with my husband because I have already spent almost of my life with him.” Now they seem to be very healthy physically and mentally.
Hi, everyone.
Cherry, you look happy for me. Humans depth psychology is conundrum, though even I don't know myself.
Today, it is the hottest. Now at 20:50 windows are opened, but as if it was in the Finland style bath. I sweat haevily, but my weight doesn't reduce. This is a mystery. It's unfair.
Now the world is flat. Temperature is also like India or Thailand.
Geographical impediment is removed.
It's true.
Let me introduce a part of the protozoa world. When I was young, it is difficult to subtract, many years ago, I collected the water from pond and paddy field to look at something through the microscope. In the world, there was a protozoa of which shape was like a lily of the valley, but it was transparent. You can see the organ colored green or red. There were cilium around the mouth(maybe). Smaller protozoa swam and approched it. The cilium of the lily of the vally -like protozoa
turned quickly. It made a whirl.
The smaller protozoa desperately tried to escape. It was caught in a whirl. When it was in the predator's body, in a moment it moved. It is not long before it did not move and disappeared.
Hi, everyone!!!
I have heard from a number of Japanese friends of mine that it is terribly hot at the moment in Japan. I just wish that all of you were here in Sydney. It was moderately warm and fantastically pleasant today in Sydney.
My daughter asked me to cook rolled cabbage for supper, and so I went to a vegetable shop where all the staff were Chinese. All the cabbages at the shop were extremely huge and expensive, but anyway I bought one and paid about 1,000 yen in Japanese currency (one cabbage cost 1,000 yen, can you believe?) at the check-out counter, and a middle-aged Chinese woman at the counter said, “Thank you, darling.” Darling??? I just laughed to myself.
Each leaf of the cabbage was quite thick, and I just wondered whether I could make rolled cabbage with these fat leaves, but anyhow I could cook 7 rolls. I did not eat dinner, because I had a big lunch in the late afternoon, but my daughter had one and said it was tasty, and so I was relieved. I put a lot of white Australian wine in the sauce, which was likely to give nice favor.
Cherry, thank you for telling us about your counseling. In Australia, counseling is called just “therapy”, and a counselor is called a “therapist”, and talking to your therapist is called a “therapy session”.
The middle and upper classes in English speaking countries have the conception that each individual needs a therapist, and a therapist himself/herself goes to sessions with his/her therapist. The fee is about 10,000 yen per hour, and therapy is tremendously popular among them, and they go to their therapists for sessions as if they went on a picnic.
After they come home, they pick up their phone (or, nowadays, as soon as they finish their sessions, they mobile-phone), and exchange information with their friends about their sessions, saying, “My therapist said such and such…” or “My therapist is not good enough, because ….” as if they exchanged shopping information, like “That shop is really good, because…” They extremely enjoy this type of life, which is unimaginable to us ordinary Japanese, but I think therapy is not a bad method to search for a way out. It’s so common, and they really love it. Some of my Australian friends are, in a way, crazy about their sessions, and I love to hear them talk about their sessions.
Well, it’s almost 11:30 at Sydney time, and it’s better to go to bed now.
Bye, bye, my dear friends. Hope you had a great time today.
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